Feeling Rules

I thought the concept of feeling rules was particularly interesting one to me this week. I had never really thought about how the way people feel would change from culture to culture. People in the United States view what is right to feel in a different way than say people in Germany. You could go even further and say that people in different parts of the United States feel differently. I never really thought about this until I read this section. I never really thought about if you grew up in a culture where individualism is valued you would act and feel differently than if you grew up in a culture that values overall community. I also thought it was interesting how much feeling rules affect our social structures. Feeling rules really enforce our social values and expression of negative values. Feeling rules also include deep acting and surface acting, which parents have a huge part in molding. Deep acting is how we feel about things whereas surface acting is how we outwardly express those feelings. For example, when a child receives a compliment, how they feel about it would be the deep acting and what they say as a result would be the surface acting.